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Passionate for One:
A Crash Course in Living & Loving Your
(Fabulously) Single Life
By Lisa Steadman, a.k.a. The Relationship
Journalist™
Welcome to your crash course in living and loving your life as a savvy
single. Whether you know it or not, there's so much to be thankful for.
Freedom of speech. Freedom to date. The right to vote. The right to
flirt! The opportunity to fall in love -- again or for the very first
time. And most important of all, the opportunity to live and love our
lives as they are right now. Regardless of where you are along your path
to happily ever after, your life is pretty magnificent. The only
thing that’s truly lacking may be your ability to see it that way. If
that's the case, it's time to tweak your perspective.
In creating a life that you love, you exponentially increase the
likelihood that you will attract a more suitable partner. Maybe that
person will be the love of your life. Or maybe they'll be someone you
date briefly along the road to happily ever after. Either way,
the experience will be rewarding.
Unsure how to live and love your life? The following are a few tips:
Tip #1: Clear out mental/emotional clutter
Hung up on an ex? Stuck in a negative emotional space? Paralyzed by some
kind of fear? Your mission is to clear out any residual mental/emotional
clutter you may be clinging to. It's the clutter that may be holding you
back from a life you can truly live and love. So do yourself a favor and
take an inventory of your emotional baggage. Then repeat after me: I
deserve to live and love my life as it is right now!
Tip #2: Keep a gratitude journal
While there will always be something we wish we could change (our
bodies, our debt, our job, etc.), it's important to make peace with our
lives as they are right now. That doesn't mean you can't strive for
change. It just means you need to take time to be grateful for your life
right now. Every day, write down five things you are grateful for. You
can start with this: I am grateful for my life as it is right now!
Tip #3: Be honest about what you want
Having trouble living and loving your life? The next step in living and
loving your life is to be honest about what you truly desire in life.
Want to find real and lasting love? Make it a priority! Want to change
jobs? Work towards making it happen. Want to pay off debt or go back to
school? Make a plan and go for it. And repeat after me: I owe it to
myself to go after what I really want!
Tip #4: Break up with limiting relationship beliefs
Take a quick survey of your past relationships. What do they have in
common? Aside from the fact that they all ended, the other common
denominator is you. No, I'm not saying you're the problem. But you may
have some limiting relationship beliefs that are hindering your ability
to have a successful long-term loving relationship. I'll show you how to
break up with these beliefs in the coming months. For now, repeat this:
I am ready, willing, and able to kick my limiting relationship
beliefs to the curb!
Tip #5: Create a new love/life vocabulary
Are you stuck in relationship limbo because you just can't visualize
healthy, whole love? Then it's time for you to create a new love
vocabulary. Here's how. Write down a few current beliefs about love. For
example, you may believe love is hard. Now, replace that negative
vocabulary with positive vocabulary, i.e. love is beautiful. Repeat this
exercise every day for 30 days. You'll be surprised at how your outlook
can change in just one month.
Congratulations! You are now five tips closer to living and loving your
life as a savvy single. Each month, I'll bring you additional tips and
tools to help you make your quality of life that much more enjoyable.
Remember, in creating a life that you love, you constantly attract the
love of your life.
About the author
Lisa Steadman, a.k.a. The Relationship Journalist™ is an accomplished
relationship writer, speaker, and coach. She is the site creator of
BreakupChronicles.com featuring stories of how breaking up with the
wrong person is the right thing to do (and always leads to bigger and
better opportunities in life – including meeting Mr. Right!). Her first
book It's a Breakup, Not a Breakdown: Get over the Big One and Change
Your Life - for Good! will be available nationwide in bookstores and
online beginning May 8th. Recently, Lisa has been featured on The KTLA
Morning News, The Tyra Banks Show, Fox Across America, and Playboy radio
espousing the positive side breaking up.
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